Facing Facts: Is our addiction to cosmetic procedures a mental health issue?

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12th December 2017

Our increasing acceptance of cosmetic procedures and plastic surgery is hardly headline news anymore but there’s no denying the sheer velocity of it’s popularity over the last three years…..particularly amongst young girls.

So what has changed?  Why are twenty-something hotties getting regular Botox injections and lip augmentation treatments?  What is making attractive young girls with dewy, line-free skin and already ample lips, visit the cosmetic surgeon?

It’s no accident that in this current world of instant gratification – the one where young women are addicted to their social media feeds – the need for acceptance and to conform to the images they’re continually shown; is immense.  And it’s not just how they should look.  There’s the designer duds they need to wear, the car they should be driving and the (perceived) lifestyle they need to be living.  It’s exhausting and it’s relentless.

A case in point is the current poster-girl for cosmetic procedures – Kylie Jenner.  Along with completely changing her face (check out the infamous time-lapse video on YouTube and you’ll see she’s virtually unrecognisable from the girl she was three years ago) she has seemingly set the precedent for the image that girls in their teens and twenties want to project.   We now have an epidemic of young women who fanatically control and curate every element of their lives, all so that they can post the perfect selfie on Instagram.

Now you might be forgiven for thinking I have a downer on Ms. Jenner. I don’t.  However, she’s a girl born into relative wealth (even before the explosion of KUWTK ) and who has every contact and resource available to her in order to carve out the life she wants. Does that mean she doesn’t work hard? No.  Does it mean she deserves to be verbally pelted on social media? Of course not. But it does give her a huge advantage and set her apart from the vast majority of other young women her age.  Kylie Jenner is not the norm. Nor should she be held up as being so. It’s an unrealistic benchmark and moreover, it sets people up to feel like failures.

Which is precisely where things get to start a bit messed up.   Here’s a synopsis of what Freud believed about The Pleasure Principle and our need for instant gratification.

“The id is an important part of our personality because as newborns, it allows us to get our basic needs met. Freud believed that the id is based on our pleasure principle. In other words, the id wants whatever feels good at the time, with no consideration for the reality of the situation”.

So, how does this relate to an addiction to cosmetic procedures?  Well, it’s ultimately the pursuit of instant gratification (how many people liked our photo, viewed our video etc.) through altering our appearance or portraying a certain lifestyle;  at the expense of what is actually going to give us long-term fulfilment.  And this is where – like any unhelpful behaviour or coping strategy – the need for many young women to continually get cosmetic procedures, is potentially a mental-health ticking time bomb.

“That’s all a bit dramatic Laney”, you might say.  Well no, it’s not.  Just think about it.  In a sea of young women fighting for social airspace and acceptance; what happens when your wrinkle- free forehead, overly large lips and teeth veneers still haven’t landed you a rich boyfriend/husband or a career as a millionaire Beauty Entrepreneur? Plus there’s the mounting cost of all this work (not to mention the financed Mercedes parked on your mums drive). Just what happens when you’re still feeling desperately insecure about your appearance ( now your celebrity idol has had yet another procedure done and you literally can’t …well…..keep up) despite having all of this stuff done? What then?

It’s because of this very factor, that the cosmetic enhancement industry needs to not feed this potential mental health issue. From an emotional standpoint, they have a real responsibility to manage expectations about what a cosmetic procedure can (and can’t) do.

Before you start thinking I despise the cosmetic enhancements industry; it’s actually quite the opposite. In the right circumstances, a cosmetic procedure can transform someone’s life and provide them with a new-found level of confidence  they didn’t have before.  In those cases, it’s not just about instant gratification.  It’s a life-changing and pivotal decision in their lives that provides them with real fulfilment long-term.  That’s why any cosmetic intervention has to be a well thought out decision and not something done on a whim (or because all your friends have it).  No amount of fillers or injections will make you happy, if fundamentally what you’re unhappy about or pursuing, actually isn’t (in reality) related to the size of your lips or how many people like your selfie on Instagram.

Need further convincing?  As I was writing this blog entry, a story flashed up on my Sky News feed.  The story had broken that day and involved ex Facebook executive Chamath Palihapitiya. He was voicing his concern over our unhealthy relationship with social media sites and how this manifests in our attaching importance to gratification, not fulfilment.  In his words:-

“The short-term, dopamine-driven feedback loops we’ve created are destroying how society works. We are in a really bad state of affairs right now.”

 “We curate our lives around this perceived sense of perfection because we get rewarded in these short term signals – hearts, likes, thumbs up.”
So, the bad guy in all of this really isn’t cosmetic surgery at all.   The real issue lies with the diet of illusion and pursuit of perfection that our Millenials are being continually force-fed – every single day. As a result,  it should be no great surprise when they’re turning to solutions that offer a short term buzz.  It therefore should also be no surprise, that they’re becoming addicted in the process.



Top Ten Autumn/Winter Fashion Accessories

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22nd July 2017

It’s a well-known fact that most people wear 20% of their clothes, 80% of the time.  To avoid being a statistic, it’s a wise investment of your time and money to build a capsule wardrobe that centres around great quality basics, allowing you to switch in a few key seasonal/throw-away pieces.

For me, the starting block of this principle is getting the accessories right.  In fact, I’m a firm believer that the difference between a “nice” outfit and a “wow” outfit is all in the accessorising.  A great example of this is fashionista Olivia Palermo who, most of the time, is actually quite a classic dresser.  Her ability to switch well-chosen accessories into her outfits however, amps up the overall effect by several notches and makes her possibly the most “put together” member of today’s fash pack.

Here are my top ten accessories for Autumn Winter.  For full details on all of the items shown here, visit our Polyvore set

Number One: The Classic Riding Boot:  Buy right and this style will stay in your wardrobe forever.  I’ve chosen a black style because it can be styled both casually and smart; whereas I always feel tan varieties lend themselves to a more relaxed vibe.  In order to make a sensible investment purchase, choose a style that finishes on, or just underneath the knee.  This will increase your ability to wear the boot with a variety of different outfits including skirts, leggings and jeans.  Unless you are very slim, mid calf styles cut your lower leg in half at the widest point and over the knee versions (which I love incidentally) can sometimes lose their shape and start to look sloppy.  The traditional 1.5″ block heel is the classic option.  Don’t worry if you have wider calves (even the most buff of gym bunnies can struggle get boots to fit their developed legs) there are plenty of online retailers offering great styles such as this version by Clarks. Finally, if you don’t do leather, opt for a faux suede style as – generally speaking – they look more realistic.

Number Two:  The classic tank watch with leather strap: Watch styles come and go but a classic unisex size tank watch will always ooze style and go with everything.  The iconic option is the Cartier, however there are many much more affordable versions such as this one by Belk.  Personally I prefer a tan strap to black but the choice is yours and both bottle green and oxblood also look great.   Consider your jewellery too – if you wear silver, go for a steel or silver coloured face.

Number Three: The classic leather tote.  Clearly black is the easy option here but I personally love shades such as deep teal, bottle green and oxblood.  They invariably look more expensive than black and look amazing set against neutrals such as black, camel and grey.  As this is your everyday bag, my advice is to not scrimp here and buy the best option you can afford.  Cheap linings will rip, so look for styles with a heavy duty cotton inner.  Seek out plain, stitched on handles as cheap hardware looks just that and as always, avoid big, blingy logos.  Personally I’d opt for a style that had rolled top handles and a detachable shoulder strap. Otherwise choose a bag that has handles that go over your shoulder as well as being handheld.     For those of you who don’t buy leather, this option by Target is amazing value and can be reversed for use as a beach bag during the summer months.

Number Four: The cashmere scarf.  Not just your friend during the winter months, a lightweight cashmere scarf will save the day when the air conditioning on a flight has you shivering (it also doubles as a pillow) or want something to throw over your shoulders on a cold summers evening.  There is one in my bag all year round.   Although cashmere is a bit more expensive, it is warm without being bulky and gets softer and cozier, the more it’s used.  Camel and grey are great options for use throughout the year – this one by Black is a truly versatile choice at a great price.

Number Five: Aviators. If  you are driving in low winter sun or have pesky sensitive eyes (I do) that spout like the Trevi fountain in a stiff breeze; sunglasses are a must all year round.  Although there are literally thousands of High Street imitations, the classic Ray Ban Aviator is the go-to option and works with everything. Plus,  if you want a prescription version most good opticians stock the brand.

Number Six: French Drop earrings in gold or silver.   Our choice from Melinda Maria works with virtually any outfit choice but most importantly, suits all hair lengths as it isn’t too dangly.  Conversely,  they have enough presence that you could pair them with a black cocktail dress for an evening out.  Once again, if you don’t do gold just switch in a silver or rose gold variety.

Number Seven: stacking bangles.  As with the earrings, delicate stacking bangles work with virtually everything and are widely available in the High Street.  They will pep up the most simple of outfits and are super-feminine.  Melinda Maria and Monica Vinader both design great bangles with semi precious stones and that you can collect for your own individual look.

Number eight:  Mid height leopard print heel.  For me, this is a fashion classic.  They key is to choose a classic court style with no embellishments and a muted/delicate print.  They look amazing with jeans, fantastic with a formal black dress or pant suit and are a blogger favourite due to this versatility.  If you prefer your monochrome accessories, maybe consider opting for a zebra print in black and white.  Once again, if you don’t do leather – no problem.  There are stacks of great synthetic versions available.

Number nine: Metallic box clutch.  Whether it’s gold, rose-gold or silver, a great metallic box clutch will be your best-friend on a night out.  Even the most basic of dresses will be transformed with this style (and of course, numbers six, seven and eight on this list) and it’s far more interesting than boring black.  So unless you’re attending THE most formal of black (or white) tie events, make metallic your choice!

Number Ten: Western style suede ankle boot.  Again a blogger staple , a great mid-tan version of this style will be a style you will go to time again.  I even wear mine in summer with my denim shift dresses!  Choose a block heel with a height of around 3″ which will (as well as adding a bit of extra height) be comfortable enough to wear all day.  Once again, synthetic versions are great nowadays and are plentiful in availability right now.


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